All about parenting

All about parenting

Parenting, when talked about by many was easy for others tend to tolerate their child’s attitude whether it’s good or bad. But as to this rate, parenting is much more difficult than what others thought it would be. Children, nowadays, are way worse than children before. Parents find it hard to discipline their child because being rebellious is quite observable when it comes to it. One scold at them makes them furious because what they want is to be that someone who is always right, which parents doesn’t want. This, I call “petty” misunderstanding leads to both parties rather distant.

One should learn to listen while the other one talks. When at fault, don’t wait any longer; admit it because that, surely, will resolve the conflict made. Constantly talking about matters leads to deeper understanding on each other. Without this, the tie of the parents towards their child won’t be tight. And of course, when you talk, it helps a lot, for others, like your child will in some way comprehend you.

Our society nowadays is more exposed with advanced technologies, our children we’re very much media-driven and has convenient lifestyle than the generation back then. New technologies were out which practically caught much attention to children, they were then turned to be addicted on it. With the presence of it, children happen to spend their leisure and study time with it. There, the problem arises, which makes a parent-discipline-child quite difficult. Of course, new technologies are helpful that makes a living easy. A computer for example, it has a lot uses if used wisely because there we find information that we need with just a single click, we don’t need to browse lot of books just to conduct researches. It has really a lot of advantages; however, it has lots of disadvantages too. For instance, if a person, let’s say your child, tends to overuse the computer, he’ll be more driven with the information or write-ups on it, he will eventually rely on the internet so much which, basically, is not good for not all that is written there are accurate, some are just posted there for a self benefit not the others. The other advantage about it is that, when a child is too much occupied that he engages even to pornographic stuffs and sites. Once a child starts to engage in it, more often than never, the child becomes addicted to the point that he can’t sleep or relax at times when he needs to.

As a parent, we are needed to look for our child’s status or find out what were the things our child gets fond of. Not just looking out for him but also nurture them with things that are very much helpful for your child. Parents should practice talking to their child regularly for it is one of the simplest ways yet very much helpful for your child to be informed to inform, one should read a lot so that they won’t end up lacking in any way and they won’t just stand clueless at one side when finding out something. Reading a lot helps big time because it makes parents be more aware about things that their child even hides from them. It also helps in a sense that a parent can understand her child more. A parent should always remember that the best way to interact with your child is to spend time with them and when talking, create an open-relationship towards the child because sometimes a child purposely does things to annoy parents for they seek attention.

“WHEN LOVE STRIKES"

                Back when I was young, I've had lots of experiences. But I’ll start with how my parents raised me. My parents, just like the typical ones, were strict. They never let me play outside for hours or not play at all. They always keep me from going out for they fear that I might hurt myself, or get hurt from others. They' scold me whenever I hurt my knees. They've been like that until I graduated from elementary. That, maybe, was the reason why I act and move manly; I practically become a lesbian when I was in grade six. I've courted girls and pursued them; I've had 3 girl-to-girl relationships.

When I entered high school, I eventually became a girl and more lady-like, because that was when I met my first love. All that happened between us was like a “whirlwind” love story. We didn't get a formal relationship because none of us had a stand to bring our understanding one step higher, we just had this “mutual understanding“ which never lasted just like the same old story that happened in many. He was my first love and my first heartbreak. I had it when I found out that he’s courting another girl, which was the “famous flirt” in our school. It hurt me like hell because it was my first time. Just when I finished first year, I transferred to another school to mend my so-called broken heart.

            I started getting lonelier than ever, I always talk about him with my new-found friends. That simply explains that I still haven't moved on. My “moving on” mission did not succeed for the next year; he transferred to the same school I'm in. He acted like nothing happened between us and that hurts. He always says “hi” to me whenever we bump into each other. I don't know if it’s really fate who’s playing with me because on our senior year, our room were just next into each other which definitely means that we'll see each other more often. He continued greeting me whenever he sees me and made friends with me. Yes, we became friends and that made me happier compared to the previous years. We became very close to each other and then he courted me. Oh well! I was shocked and surprised which left me dumbfounded for a while. It never did crossed my mind that he would do that, but nonetheless it made me shiver and even gave me goose bumps. I was so happy that I even told my parents about it. As expected they objected, they let me choose; "that" or my studies. And of course, I chose my studies. It pained me when I told him and witnessed how pain paints onto his handsome face. But it can’t be helped for I am too young to engage with it and if we really are meant for each other, we'll be together, in time.

"The Tenderness"

Where am I standing

If you hadn’t brought me up when they left me hanging?

To you do I find courage,

To strive hard and gain more knowledge.

I never realized that I could be any of help

Until you came and teach me almost everything

Most especially the good things.

By that, I’ve had memories that were heartfelt.

You see to it that we the got the good values

How it should be used and know how was it precious,

It’s just so simple and doesn’t even need to have a preparation

That in time we could pass it on to our next generation,

And just when I’m into downfall

You brought me into your arms with so much tender.

I never believe into such thing,

But you thought me something,

And that something chants about how good can

You be for every BEING.

Dry Hair Problem; What to do?

Hair problem like dry hair are commonly discussed nowadays. It is mainly because of the unpredictable weather, and most probably because of the fact that earth is getting hotter and hotter due to each people’s negligence.

I also like to consider myself to have the same problem a well as the other girls out there. It’s been years since I suffered for this, to the point that I’ve become frustrated on finding solutions to avoid it or at least reduce it. I’ve always wanted to look good without making so much effort. I’ve no fondness of using make-ups and hair gadgets though, that’s why I see to it that my hair looks pretty as it could, just for a natural way.

Browsing lots of books and the internet, I found out that there are many ways to prevent and treat dry hair. I’ve come to point on listing each of it, and now I’m going to share it with you.

Let’s start with simple yet effective way of which is mostly used and done by women today. Initially you’d have to ask your stylist to trim your hair, to eliminate fry, dead, spilt ends, to have a fresh and healthy hair for a start. And your stylist may add some treatment to make your hair healthy, which needs the enriching products to be used, to eradicate and prevent dry hair.

It was cited that there are lots of causes for dry hair. It includes; spending large number of time under the sun or even in water. Using hair gadgets like dryer, curling irons are one too. Apparently, not all of this can be avoided; rather we should at least be aware of ways to lessen the damage of hair. One is to try keeping the hair protected by the use of hat when out in the sun. The alternatives should be; let hair air-dry rather than blow-dry. The hair also needs to be conditioned in a gentle formula because hair loses its shine when small amount of oil (sebum) was produced. Furthermore, hair oils has its benefits, these are;

·         Acts as an agent that moistens and softens the hair.

·         Helps to the growth of the hair because it supplies the nutrients needed.

·         Also helps to prevent hair from having dandruff's.

·         One way to avoid split ends.

·         Lastly, it adds up shine to hair when used daily.

Hair products are highly on demand at this rate for other girls wanted to have quick solution for their problem.

There are still many ways to treat or avoid dry hair. Those preventions and treatments stated above are just few of hundreds and thousands of solutions that we can get from exploring the nature. Yes, nature! We can get a lot of treatments from nature just like herbal treatments because we’ll never know the side effects of aesthetic product if we settle of inaccurate details given.

Altogether, we can prevent the hair problem by simply avoiding or minimizing doings stuffs that may lead to dry hair. Just like the causes tackled above which is being exposed under the heat of the sun for a long period of time. We really can’t avoid it but we can do things that can protect our hair from damages.

I believe that the simplest way to prevent or even treat dry hair is to really take good care of our hair and to be aware of do’s and don’ts. Though these days, people, particularly girls, wants an instant treatment for their hair, ignoring the bad side effects of the products.

If we really persevere to have a beautiful and healthy hair, we should be wise enough to decide what to do, what to use, and also to know the benefits and effects for each that we use. It’s not always the expensive products are the most effective and good for us, rather it’s the natural way or those stuffs that are much cheaper that contains lots of benefits and good side effects.

My New Year’s Resolution (2012)

           

            New Year is the best time to look back into the past and look forward for the future. Trying to make some efforts to change ourselves and be a better  one for the new year. Many promises were kept though many of them were not.

Year 2011 for me was fine, though lot of things happened. I did encounter some hardships but I’m glad to say that I’ve passed and accomplished them all. Though I found out how difficult it is to adjust in every situation, I still made my best just to make things be up to those people who surrounded me.

As this new year starts, I did chose this following resolutions to mold myself be better as much as I can; one is to not stay up late so that I won’t be late during my early classes. I want to change myself as to be not an over aloof from those people who want to get close to me.

Way back to my past years, I’m positive to say that I’m not the kind of person who really shares problems; I’m a “damsel in distress”, as other people addresses. Others thought I was a bit cruel, nevertheless they’re judgments were all wrong for it was just the front I made for myself considering the fact that I need to protect myself to anyone whether they’re good or bad. But I guess this time I need to open-up even just a bit, not just because I need to be heard and to let out my emotions or something but also because I want to be understood and be accepted.

As I follow the ethics, I’d say from now on, I will set myself a start of all starts, but not the end of all ends. I will have something new in me. I will try doing things which could make everybody think about me when they see and recognize it. Maybe this time I will set my mind looking forward to reality and not just more so about fantasies. This another year of my life reminds me of a woman getting older. For that, I will make myself be responsible enough in accommodating things which my parents did ask me to. I will try to set my priorities too because I’m not getting any younger.

Some says I’m not careful to my words, and I will do my best to minimize this attitude. I chose the word “minimize” because I do believe that sometimes it’s better to be frank than keeping it myself for it can’t be any of help.

Too much for everything, indeed I always do some things for the benefit of others and I didn’t care at all. With these, sometimes I do forget doing things for myself. Lesson for that is to put myself first sometimes but not every time because it might not be good.

Again too much for my story. Now I’d like to proceed to my new year’s resolution which was; not to fight back when my mother scolded me, instead I should listen to her because as the saying goes “mom knows best” and I believe in it. To not be a stubborn daughter my mother could almost kill (haha!), because I often do things that make her upset, teasing her perhaps. By doing so, she has lost her temper on me, and that’s one thing why she scolded me every time. To not take anything for granted, my studies for instance, as my parents keep on telling me, I really should take it seriously ‘cause we never know what might happen in the future and nothing remains constant. Done with the don’ts, now I’ll start with the do’s; to be a supportive sister to my three brothers because I realized that it’s the biggest thing that I could give them aside from money. To have a positive outlook and confidence on myself. To be mature enough to know things. And lastly, to be a perfect daughter my parents wish me to be, though I’m not sure I can and that the only thing I can guarantee is a not-so-perfect daughter, but I’ll try.

So let’s end it here, much as I believe that only few of these will be kept, I’ll still try. Besides, this will not really happen if we won’t make it happen because in the first place, we are what we do, no one’s to blame if we won’t be able to make this but ourselves.