To Whom It May Concern 1

When did it become so easy to give up for someone you cherished so much? Did you really mean what you said or you were just fooling around because what you feel was long dead?

It was late that night when I received an unforeseen message from you. I was busy talking to my roommates when that came in. I have always been that keen when it comes to conversation, may it be light or deep. I read your message and just then, my mind went blank. I could barely move or even talk, all I could feel was my tears streaming down my cheeks like a rain that keeps pouring. You’ve got the wrong recipient, and it’s me, unfortunately. That moment, fate was on my side, rooting for me because he wanted me to get a glimpse about what you’ve been into. He unfolded the truth right before my eyes, with you who keep feeding me with lies.

I tried drowning myself, I drank, but when I’m sober the pain just doubled. I really can’t seem to fathom everything; the reasons, YOUR reasons. Were we not enough? Or were we just too much? I have been waiting for you to talk it out for years now yet you still chose to keep mum about it. Why? Was it that hard opening yourself to us? To me at least? If you’ve done something to be mad about then say so, it’s not like I’m going to hate you for the rest of my life. Who am I to not forgive? I’m just a daughter, I could do nothing about it. But heck, if you really did, I’d rather you to be honest. At least I know I’m not being fooled at, not by my very own father, not by you. You were the only man for me, the only man I look up to since time immemorial. You can’t just ruin it, can you?

You said you cared but you make me feel that you just did that out of guilt. I was seldom wrong about my intuition but I chose to believe in your little charade. You brought out the worst in me, wrecked my world, and left with a casualty, ME.

Am I mean?

If you say you know me, raise a hand. If you say you've talked to me some time before, approach me. If you think you're right about your judgments about me, then throw a stone at me. And if you think you know me well, then I dare you to be with me in every moment I bleed and every moment I fall. So i could ask you to exchange our shoes and let you feel and grasp what I've been into. Every smile I fake just to not worry the ones I care about, every joke I crack just to see them laugh. Every time I'm broke, seldom the times I'm with someone. That most of the time I deal with it alone. Every hurtful words and acts I swallowed because I know all of this will come to an end soon. Maybe soon, maybe later, maybe never.

So can I ask you about things? Do you have a family? Do you have a mother? Do you have a father? Siblings? If yes, are you with them? Are you happy with them? I mean, is your family happy? Are your brothers healthy? Normal? If yes, then that's good. But if no, does one of them have an illness that may take forever for them to recover? I mean, do you know about bipolar disorder? 'Heard about it? Does your brother suffer from it? Is he at the rehabilitation center? If yes, how does it feel like? Have you had your chest hurt like it's been sliced a hundred times seeing him at his weakest state? Have you ever felt like dying too, as he talked and begged for you to help him? It hurts right? Darn hurts. Have your father ever cheated on your mother? Even once? Twice? Thrice? If yes, have you asked him about it and heard lies as he denied it? Do you even know how it feels like? Do you know how your mom handles it? Deals with it? Do you know that she cries at night, 'till dawn? Or how she did it without letting you know? How she managed to wake up each morning to prepare breakfast for you not to go to school with an empty stomach? How she's still able to wash your clothes with her bare hands just for you to have a nice dress to wear at school? You don't! Because all you can think of are those fancy dresses you've seen at mall, all those silly chitchats you've had with your friends about those cute men you bumped into, those selfie's you had on your phone and your plan to upload it before the dawn breaks. Oh well! A typical teenager you are. But let me tell you few things. If you plan to go on like that until you get old and until forever, then go on. No one's stopping you, as they've said, "You only live once.", so might as well enjoy it 'till your body drops. Heck yeah! That's life, right? But if you plan to make a change just by reading this, realizing (finally!) what mistake have you done, and what things have you missed regarding your family matters, then, I say, it is a wise decision. A very good one. It is still not too late to reach out and lend a hand to the people you've been with since the day you've been given life. It is payback time; it’s your time now to do them a favor. Why not start with a little talk from your sick brother with your other siblings and reassure him that you'll take care of him even until no one's going to. Give him the best comfort he needs as well as the love he deserves from you. Next is, talk to your mom and comfort her as well because the best thing she needs from you is a shoulder to cry and to lean on. Do things to please her, you may start by washing your own dirty clothes, by being her substitute at the kitchen, do the chores that you can handle to lessen her loads. Quite simple, right? Indeed. Simple things touch the heart the most and your mother is no different. And lastly, talk to your father about the matter and ask him about his thoughts about working out their marriage. If you feel like there's still a chance then do everything to have your family back, after all, it's your family. No one's going to benefit from it the most, but you.

All about parenting

All about parenting

Parenting, when talked about by many was easy for others tend to tolerate their child’s attitude whether it’s good or bad. But as to this rate, parenting is much more difficult than what others thought it would be. Children, nowadays, are way worse than children before. Parents find it hard to discipline their child because being rebellious is quite observable when it comes to it. One scold at them makes them furious because what they want is to be that someone who is always right, which parents doesn’t want. This, I call “petty” misunderstanding leads to both parties rather distant.

One should learn to listen while the other one talks. When at fault, don’t wait any longer; admit it because that, surely, will resolve the conflict made. Constantly talking about matters leads to deeper understanding on each other. Without this, the tie of the parents towards their child won’t be tight. And of course, when you talk, it helps a lot, for others, like your child will in some way comprehend you.

Our society nowadays is more exposed with advanced technologies, our children we’re very much media-driven and has convenient lifestyle than the generation back then. New technologies were out which practically caught much attention to children, they were then turned to be addicted on it. With the presence of it, children happen to spend their leisure and study time with it. There, the problem arises, which makes a parent-discipline-child quite difficult. Of course, new technologies are helpful that makes a living easy. A computer for example, it has a lot uses if used wisely because there we find information that we need with just a single click, we don’t need to browse lot of books just to conduct researches. It has really a lot of advantages; however, it has lots of disadvantages too. For instance, if a person, let’s say your child, tends to overuse the computer, he’ll be more driven with the information or write-ups on it, he will eventually rely on the internet so much which, basically, is not good for not all that is written there are accurate, some are just posted there for a self benefit not the others. The other advantage about it is that, when a child is too much occupied that he engages even to pornographic stuffs and sites. Once a child starts to engage in it, more often than never, the child becomes addicted to the point that he can’t sleep or relax at times when he needs to.

As a parent, we are needed to look for our child’s status or find out what were the things our child gets fond of. Not just looking out for him but also nurture them with things that are very much helpful for your child. Parents should practice talking to their child regularly for it is one of the simplest ways yet very much helpful for your child to be informed to inform, one should read a lot so that they won’t end up lacking in any way and they won’t just stand clueless at one side when finding out something. Reading a lot helps big time because it makes parents be more aware about things that their child even hides from them. It also helps in a sense that a parent can understand her child more. A parent should always remember that the best way to interact with your child is to spend time with them and when talking, create an open-relationship towards the child because sometimes a child purposely does things to annoy parents for they seek attention.

“WHEN LOVE STRIKES"

                Back when I was young, I've had lots of experiences. But I’ll start with how my parents raised me. My parents, just like the typical ones, were strict. They never let me play outside for hours or not play at all. They always keep me from going out for they fear that I might hurt myself, or get hurt from others. They' scold me whenever I hurt my knees. They've been like that until I graduated from elementary. That, maybe, was the reason why I act and move manly; I practically become a lesbian when I was in grade six. I've courted girls and pursued them; I've had 3 girl-to-girl relationships.

When I entered high school, I eventually became a girl and more lady-like, because that was when I met my first love. All that happened between us was like a “whirlwind” love story. We didn't get a formal relationship because none of us had a stand to bring our understanding one step higher, we just had this “mutual understanding“ which never lasted just like the same old story that happened in many. He was my first love and my first heartbreak. I had it when I found out that he’s courting another girl, which was the “famous flirt” in our school. It hurt me like hell because it was my first time. Just when I finished first year, I transferred to another school to mend my so-called broken heart.

            I started getting lonelier than ever, I always talk about him with my new-found friends. That simply explains that I still haven't moved on. My “moving on” mission did not succeed for the next year; he transferred to the same school I'm in. He acted like nothing happened between us and that hurts. He always says “hi” to me whenever we bump into each other. I don't know if it’s really fate who’s playing with me because on our senior year, our room were just next into each other which definitely means that we'll see each other more often. He continued greeting me whenever he sees me and made friends with me. Yes, we became friends and that made me happier compared to the previous years. We became very close to each other and then he courted me. Oh well! I was shocked and surprised which left me dumbfounded for a while. It never did crossed my mind that he would do that, but nonetheless it made me shiver and even gave me goose bumps. I was so happy that I even told my parents about it. As expected they objected, they let me choose; "that" or my studies. And of course, I chose my studies. It pained me when I told him and witnessed how pain paints onto his handsome face. But it can’t be helped for I am too young to engage with it and if we really are meant for each other, we'll be together, in time.

"The Tenderness"

Where am I standing

If you hadn’t brought me up when they left me hanging?

To you do I find courage,

To strive hard and gain more knowledge.

I never realized that I could be any of help

Until you came and teach me almost everything

Most especially the good things.

By that, I’ve had memories that were heartfelt.

You see to it that we the got the good values

How it should be used and know how was it precious,

It’s just so simple and doesn’t even need to have a preparation

That in time we could pass it on to our next generation,

And just when I’m into downfall

You brought me into your arms with so much tender.

I never believe into such thing,

But you thought me something,

And that something chants about how good can

You be for every BEING.

Dry Hair Problem; What to do?

Hair problem like dry hair are commonly discussed nowadays. It is mainly because of the unpredictable weather, and most probably because of the fact that earth is getting hotter and hotter due to each people’s negligence.

I also like to consider myself to have the same problem a well as the other girls out there. It’s been years since I suffered for this, to the point that I’ve become frustrated on finding solutions to avoid it or at least reduce it. I’ve always wanted to look good without making so much effort. I’ve no fondness of using make-ups and hair gadgets though, that’s why I see to it that my hair looks pretty as it could, just for a natural way.

Browsing lots of books and the internet, I found out that there are many ways to prevent and treat dry hair. I’ve come to point on listing each of it, and now I’m going to share it with you.

Let’s start with simple yet effective way of which is mostly used and done by women today. Initially you’d have to ask your stylist to trim your hair, to eliminate fry, dead, spilt ends, to have a fresh and healthy hair for a start. And your stylist may add some treatment to make your hair healthy, which needs the enriching products to be used, to eradicate and prevent dry hair.

It was cited that there are lots of causes for dry hair. It includes; spending large number of time under the sun or even in water. Using hair gadgets like dryer, curling irons are one too. Apparently, not all of this can be avoided; rather we should at least be aware of ways to lessen the damage of hair. One is to try keeping the hair protected by the use of hat when out in the sun. The alternatives should be; let hair air-dry rather than blow-dry. The hair also needs to be conditioned in a gentle formula because hair loses its shine when small amount of oil (sebum) was produced. Furthermore, hair oils has its benefits, these are;

·         Acts as an agent that moistens and softens the hair.

·         Helps to the growth of the hair because it supplies the nutrients needed.

·         Also helps to prevent hair from having dandruff's.

·         One way to avoid split ends.

·         Lastly, it adds up shine to hair when used daily.

Hair products are highly on demand at this rate for other girls wanted to have quick solution for their problem.

There are still many ways to treat or avoid dry hair. Those preventions and treatments stated above are just few of hundreds and thousands of solutions that we can get from exploring the nature. Yes, nature! We can get a lot of treatments from nature just like herbal treatments because we’ll never know the side effects of aesthetic product if we settle of inaccurate details given.

Altogether, we can prevent the hair problem by simply avoiding or minimizing doings stuffs that may lead to dry hair. Just like the causes tackled above which is being exposed under the heat of the sun for a long period of time. We really can’t avoid it but we can do things that can protect our hair from damages.

I believe that the simplest way to prevent or even treat dry hair is to really take good care of our hair and to be aware of do’s and don’ts. Though these days, people, particularly girls, wants an instant treatment for their hair, ignoring the bad side effects of the products.

If we really persevere to have a beautiful and healthy hair, we should be wise enough to decide what to do, what to use, and also to know the benefits and effects for each that we use. It’s not always the expensive products are the most effective and good for us, rather it’s the natural way or those stuffs that are much cheaper that contains lots of benefits and good side effects.